Date of cremation….


I am busy with my child’s estate.  It is absolutely horrible!!!!!!

Today, 131 days after Vic died, I have to complete an insurance form.  The question I cannot answer is “Date of Cremation”.  I did not want to know!  This is another date that will stick to my memory until the day I die….  I had to send an email to the undertaker.  I await his reply.

I held my child death certificate and Notice of Death form DHA-1663A in my hands… On page 1 of 3 is Vic’s tiny little thumbprints, on page 2 of 3 – my thumbprint.  I am listed as the “informant”.  On page 3 of 3 the thumbprint of the Undertaker…

Form number DHA-1663A
Form number DHA-1663A

The darn certificates are smudged with tears now.  Oh well, tough luck!!

No parent should ever have to do, whatever executors have to do, for their child…  It feels as if my heart was ripped out of my chest! 

To-do list: OUTSTANDING FORMS TO SUBMIT

  1. DEATH NOTICE – FORM J294
  2. PARTICULARS OF NEXT-OF-KIN FORM J192
  3. INVENTORY – FORM J243
  4. ACCEPTANCE OF TRUST AS EXECUTOR
  5. CREDITORS LIST
  6. AFFIDAVIT RE EXECUTORSHIP
  7. SPECIAL POWER OF ATTORNEY
  8. INSURANCE POLICY CLAIMS

I DON’T EVEN KNOW WHO TO SUBMIT THESE STUPID DARN FORMS TO!!  I suppose there will be a website somewhere that will tell me.

I WANT MY CHILD BACK!!!!!

 

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tersiaburger

I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child. https://tersiaburger.wordpress.com

14 thoughts on “Date of cremation….”

  1. Hugs my friend. The funeral home that took care of her shuld be able to direct you thru every step, if they don’t the city or county clerk, at least that is how it works here when no attorney is involved. May God wrap His arms securely around you.

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  2. Poor thing. Can you have your husband help you? Or a friend? Some things are too hard. It’ll be okay. Just set it aside until you can find someone to help. It’ll keep. (((Hug)))

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  5. All I remember was getting the death certificate and telling myself not to look at it. But I did. Seeing the time of death sent me sick and reeling, put all kinds of pictures in my head. If I am grateful for anything, it’s that it’s not last year, there’s no goddamn formalities or papers to sign or anything that seems so trite and meaningless but is simply supposed to be taken care of. Now it’s just me and Philip, and the uninterrupted every-day of living in this new relationship with him. He is gone in the way that I want him to be, but he is not gone.

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