Dying is a lonely journey. Not only for the sick person but also for the family. As hard as we may try to avoid death, the truth is that we do a lousy job of it. Science and medicine will certainly postpone it, even staying healthy might seem to delay it, but the harsh reality is that death does not wait for you, it does not ask you, and it does not listen to you. Death ignores your feelings and wants; you do not matter to death…Death is the only certainty in life! We need to remember that our existence here is fragile, and we never have as much time with people as we think we do. If there is someone or someones out there that you love, don’t neglect that and don’t put off engaging with them because waits for no-one… Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child.
A lifetime of sadness
13.2.2011
I am so tired of being sad. I am so terribly tired of missing my child. I miss our easy friendship, our laughter.
I miss laughing!
I miss being happy.
I miss looking forward to tomorrow…
The pain is just too much. I cannot bear the longing any more.
The sad thing is that I have a lifetime of sadness ahead of me.
I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation.
Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend.
I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child.
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Tersia, you will carry your beautiful child’s memory for a lifetime. Your life will never be the same. There will be sadness for what you miss so much. But even though today is unbearable, tomorrow is something unknown. I will wish for you the healing I experienced. Over time, the sadness turned into profound understanding and acceptance. It took a long time and now I can live with sadness. Helping others as you are doing with Stepping Stone is something that will help you heal, too. That is how your child lives on. And she is living on in ways you cannot imagine at this moment. The raw and aching absence will gradually ease, I promise you. It’s just too soon. Also, letting go of sadness does not mean you love her any less!
all normal feelings Tersia, it is sad but it is the burden to bear from now until entering eternity ourselves. Just keep thanking God for the strength and comfort that can only come from him. You have my love and hugs.
There is a time for everything. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to laugh and a time to cry. I know you cannot imagine now when there will be a time for laughter. But, it will come. Never give up!
i understand that you will always have this sadness. i also hope that you will be happy when you think those good times. hope that you will find some kind of peace in knowing that vic is at peace.
My daughter keeps telling me to breathe, that it’s just a day at a time; but my mind doesn’t get it. It’s all too much. I’m thinking of you, and I think of you every day.
We are all here for you T. I know we can’t take away your pain. But we can try and carry the sadness with you. I sometimes type when I maybe shouldn’t, but I just care.
Vic's Final Journey 
the joy of sadness, only happens when you care
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Tersia, you will carry your beautiful child’s memory for a lifetime. Your life will never be the same. There will be sadness for what you miss so much. But even though today is unbearable, tomorrow is something unknown. I will wish for you the healing I experienced. Over time, the sadness turned into profound understanding and acceptance. It took a long time and now I can live with sadness. Helping others as you are doing with Stepping Stone is something that will help you heal, too. That is how your child lives on. And she is living on in ways you cannot imagine at this moment. The raw and aching absence will gradually ease, I promise you. It’s just too soon. Also, letting go of sadness does not mean you love her any less!
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Dear Judy, I hold onto your words of encouragement! Thank you dear friend for your words of advice and love.
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I know your thoughts. I have these with my father
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all normal feelings Tersia, it is sad but it is the burden to bear from now until entering eternity ourselves. Just keep thanking God for the strength and comfort that can only come from him. You have my love and hugs.
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There is a time for everything. A time to be born and a time to die. A time to laugh and a time to cry. I know you cannot imagine now when there will be a time for laughter. But, it will come. Never give up!
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Thank you so much for your words of encouragement!
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i understand that you will always have this sadness. i also hope that you will be happy when you think those good times. hope that you will find some kind of peace in knowing that vic is at peace.
sending warm hugs and a piece of my heart.
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Thank you my dear, dear friend!!
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My daughter keeps telling me to breathe, that it’s just a day at a time; but my mind doesn’t get it. It’s all too much. I’m thinking of you, and I think of you every day.
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As I think of you every day!! Breathing is hard some days. Actually it is hard most days!!!
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Hugs dear friend, if you ever need to talk you know where to find me. xo
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Thank you so much!!
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(((HUGS)))
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We are all here for you T. I know we can’t take away your pain. But we can try and carry the sadness with you. I sometimes type when I maybe shouldn’t, but I just care.
Love you xx
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Thank you so much dear Shaun. You are such a good person and friend. LOve you too!!
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Xx
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You and Vic so resemble each other. God bless
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Thank you Shirley. What a lovely compliment!!
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I wish I could help – sending love Tersia.
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Thanks, Tersia
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