“I’m going to dance my way to heaven…” 14.6.2012

“I am going to dance my way to heaven because I have already been through Hell” – is the copyrighted saying of a brave lady who is terminally ill.  I cannot find her blog nor a reference in Google that this is the case, but I would like to credit her with this.  It was posted in Vic’s facebook by a family member.  If I created the impression that it is my clever line I apologise!  The credit goes to  Martha Mayhew-Merson – Meriale46@aol.com

This afternoon Vic and I were chatting and then she said: “Mommy, why does God hate me?  Why does He let me suffer like this?  Why doesn’t He allow me to die?”

I could not come up with a reply.  I don’t have an answer to this question that not only haunts Vic but so many other people.  Today Rob Cramp, Tracey, (both very dear friends to Vic) as well as Hermien, the pharmacist, asked me exactly the same question.

“I’m going to dance my way to heaven, because I’ve already been through Hell.. Vicky Bruce you are one of God’s special angels.”  My young niece, Muriel, posted this apt message on Vic’s Facebook Page.  Sometimes I think the Catholics are right about purgatory.  Only this must be the purgatory stage of our existence.  This existence of ours can only be Hell…

I omitted to say in yesterday’s post, that with a few exceptions, euthanasia and assisted suicide are very cowardly actions – the ill person getting their caregiver to do the dirty deed.  It is such a selfish action.  If the sick person can swallow their own tablets they can take their own lives.  This is my opinion.

Life is hard but death is even harder.

Tonight I am feeling mentally and physically exhausted.  Depressed actually.

Tomorrow I will feel better.    Tomorrow my brave child will continue her relentless battle against pain and indignity.

God have mercy…

Vic and the boys in better days – 23.8.2011

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I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child. https://tersiaburger.wordpress.com

6 thoughts on ““I’m going to dance my way to heaven…” 14.6.2012”

  1. The pain of losing someone shatters the strongest of hearts. Someone we love and care about deeply is being taken away from us and somehow, in the mix of emotions, the entire situation seems unfair. We find ourselves pacing, contemplating, and wondering as to what would be the exact words to describe the turmoil, the storm that is building inside us. I cannot imagine what you all are going through, I would never have been strong enough, no words – no dont worry it will get better is remotely good enough its utmost hell, my prayers are with you all.


  2. I can understand your situation and the grief that goes with it. Having someone passing away that we love is harder than anyone can realize. I too am battling to stay alive and it has been a long hard struggle. The one thing I am leaving to my children is my poetry and series of quotes I’ve written over the years. The one your using for your site “I’m going to dance my way to Heaven because I’ve already been through hell I wrote back in 1995. It is copy-written though people don’t seem to care about that in spite of the fact that it is my work. For anyone to steal credit for the work of another is wrong. No matter what the situation is. I would appreciate if you would not stake you claim on my work and give credit were it is due. Otherwise, I will have to ask you to remove this quote from your website. This quote has already gone viral throughout the internet without my consent after being removed my an old account I used to have back in the 90’s. Now that I draw closer to my end I must insist that my work be recognized and given it’s proper place in literature. it is already added to a book of poetry I’ve written where the proceeds will be given to my children. Thank you for your understanding.


    1. I am so sorry for your dreadful situation. I apologize for using your quote without linking it back to you. It was posted by someone on my daughter’s facebook page. It was apt and beautiful. I am not trying to steal from you, so there is no need to threaten me with a lawsuit. I will remove the quote and wish you luck with your final journey and publishing your book of poetry.


  3. I added this to Facebook Shuffle back in 2009 and it went sort of viral from that point on as did several others I had written. Though I don’t have a blog page any longer I am writing several book’s and one is a book of poetry among several others. The original poem that this line is from is this one.

    “I’m going to dance my way to heaven, because I’ve already been through Hell, but with this smile upon my face one could never tell. I have walked a road that’s narrow, crooked and unwise, and still I’ve learned life’s lessons much to ones surprise. There is nothing more along my path that is standing in my way, and so I’ll dance my way to heaven and I’ll meet you at the gate”

    I have written many poems that I’ve posted on various sites such as Facebook, and Deviant Art. Thank you for your understanding in this matter and for responding so promptly to my request. God bless you and keep you well. Martha Mayhew-Merson


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