Awards evening

Tonight Jon-Daniel will be honoured for his brilliant school marks.  I suspect that he will be awarded honours for the second time in his highschool career.  Vic so desperately wanted to be there last year.  It was not to be.

This year, I know, she will be there cheering for her precious son.

Congratulations my Genius! Oumie is so proud of you!!!!

Jon-Daniel's prizegiving - 2012
Jon-Daniel’s prizegiving – 2010.  
Jon-daniel helping prepare his Mommy’s injection
Jon-Daniel “showing” his mommy his honours tie – 16.1.2013
15.1.2013 Prizegiving



The Dragon Loyalty Award and Blog 2013 Award

I want to thank one of the bravest young woman, I know, for nominating me for two awards – The Dragon’s Loyalty Award and the Blog of 2013 Award. These are wonderful awards to receive. The Dragon’s Loyalty Award is an award for the loyal fan/commenter, whether the recipient is a fellow blogger or just someone who follows and comments regularly” and the Blog of 2013 Award is exactly what the award name says…The most deserving blog of the year….


There are some rules that one must follow to fully accept The Dragon’s Loyalty Award and they are as follows:

1. Firstly, display the Awards on your site. You earned it and you deserve it!
2. Link back to the person who gave you the award in your acceptance post
3. Nominate 15 well deserving bloggers for the Award and let them know the wonderful news by sending them a message on their site
4. List 7 interesting facts about yourself

 Seven facts about me:

  1. I live in South Africa and am proudly South African
    2. I always forget to wear lipstick…
    3. For the first time in my life I am working with a lot of women. I have always worked in male dominated industries.  I love my new Magnolia friends.
    4. I hate my birthday – for no particular reason.

    5. My 2014 resolution is to write Vic’s Memoirs                                                              6. I have a very inquisitive mind.                                                                                        7. I love taking close-up portrait photographs

 My 15 nominees for both awards are:

Many thanks to my brave and amazingly talented blogger friend Katie Mitchell for nominating me for this award too! Katie Mitchell suffers debilitating pain yet this brave young woman has made it her mission in life to educate the world on Connective Tissue disorders. She is a very talented artist. Katie is truly amazing and I highly recommend stopping by her blog at

 Instructions for this Award are:

1. Select the blogs you think deserve the ‘Blog of The Year 2013 Award’. *See my 15 nominees above*
2. Write a blog post and tell us about the blog(s) you’ve chosen (There are no minimum or maximum number of blogs required), and present the blogs with their Award.
3. Let the blog(s) that you’ve chosen know that you’ve given them this Award and share the instructions with them. (Please, don’t alter the instructions or the badges!).
4. Come over and say hello to the originator of the ‘Blog of The Year 2013 Award’ via this link:
5. You can now also join the Blog Of The Year Award Facebook Page Click the link here:
6. And as a winner of the award – please add a link back to the blog that presented you with this award – and proudly display the award on your blog – and start collecting stars!

About my nominees:

I have had tremendous support over the past 19 months. These bloggers that I’ve chosen to nominate are the ones who are ever-present in my life online. They are the ones who read my posts, offer words of support and friendship, and help make blogging the amazing thing that it is for me. They have helped me survive the most difficult year of my life. And in turn, their posts, pictures and stories enrich my life on a daily basis. They teach me, make me smile, make me think, and consistently remind me how truly wonderful our community of bloggers is. I have received other awards and will award the rest of my loyal cyber friends. Many of my nominees suffer either debilitating illness, pain or grief. Some of them don’t accept awards. Regardless of this I am still making the award. Thank you for your love and support; all your words of advice and kindness.

 You’re all wonderful and deserving of this recognition! 

  1. An extra nomination – My beautiful, brave child who radiated goodness and kindness, these awards are for you!  You made the world a better place.  I am proud to be your Mommy.  I love you Angel Child.

Unique Leaves Award

A huge thank you to Patty and Eddie for awarding me this beautiful award.

Patty @ is a remedial teacher happens to be gifted writer and poet. Eddie@ is a Man of The Cloth who journeys through life with a nerve disorder and CPS (Chronic Pain Syndrome), along with a list of other conditions. Eddie uses his writing to educate people who are not aware of them.

This award was created by  limseemin says in the creation post: “This is the very own award that I create for myself. Is in nice? Haha! I name it that way ” Unique Leaves Award” because I feel that all of the bloggers’ blog are unique. They have their own mesmerizing blog. All the author are shimmers orb! For me, unique is a style to say who you are without having to speak. So I come out of this idea to create this award. Tell me if I am wrong, though.”   The direct link to first award is right here.

Now that the History Lesson is over on to the Rules.


  1. Display the award logo in your blog
  2. Link back to the person who nominated you
  3. Tell us how unique you are and your blog
  4. What your thought about unique
  5. Nominate 10 others blogger for this award and link to them
  6. Notify those bloggers for the nomination

How Unique I Am?

I actually thought about this award for a long time. I don’t think I am unique at all. I researched the word “unique”. u·nique

  [yoo-neek] and found the following definition:


  1. existing as the only one or as the sole example; single; solitary in type or characteristics:a unique copy of an ancient manuscript.
  2. having no like or equal; unparalleled; incomparable: Bach was unique in his handling ofcounterpoint.
  3. limited in occurrence to a given class, situation, or area: a species unique to Australia.
  4. limited to a single outcome or result; without alternative possibilities: Certain types ofproblems have unique solutions.
  5. not typical; unusual: She has a very unique smile.

So I chose No 5 – “not typical; unusual: I gave birth to a very unique child. I carried a child in my belly for less than 9 months but carried her in life for a further 4027 days. My uniqueness lies in the bravery of the child I gave birth to. I gave birth to a child who did not know how to give up; how to die…

A young woman who loved love unconditionally and was able to forgive… So on behalf of Vicky I gracefully accept this unique leaves award.

Thought About Unique

Vic loved fearlessly. She lived fearlessly. She died bravely.



Once again – a huge thank you to Patty and Eddie for this beautiful award!!

Always Here When Needed Award

This is a lovely award. Vic loved butterflies.

The transformation that the butterfly goes through shows a powerful symbolism and likeness to human beings. The different stages, the difficulties, and finally emerging into a beautiful and colorful butterfly which once was an unattractive crawling creature, also shows the power of human beings to surpass challenges, learn, and then eventually soar to greater heights. Just as the butterfly has to go through some not so attractive stages, a person’s life can through similar situations as well, but ultimately, in the end, reach one’s full potential and become majestic and beautiful.The butterflies that we see in our gardens do not only keep the balance of nature, but for some people, they have a higher purpose. They are souls of departed ones who have come to give blessing, or spending time with you as they wait for their turn to pass through purgatory.

Leaving that aside, to comply with the rules of the nomination, I would like to thank Lucinda Elliot for the award. Lucinda, a published author, writes and lives in mid Wales. She likes gothic, dystopias, historical and steampunk. She has a superb sense of humour and has the ability to make her words “dance”. Lucinda’s blog is beautifully written and can be found on

Five things that make me happy.

  1. My grandchildren and husband
  2. Drinking tea
  3. Walking on the beach
  4. Working
  5. Stepping Stone Hospice

This is so difficult as I have so many wonderful friends who are always there for me. I have taken the five people who comment most on my blog.


Thank you for always being there for me. Thank you for your kind words of support. Thank you for caring. Thank you for always being here when I need you.

The Loyal Reader Award

The Loyal Reader Award
The Loyal Reader Award

I received this award from my good friend Shaun@ Shaun is really a great friend and supporter. Recently Shaun and his partner Dawn did a post on Vic and I. I was so humbled by the beautiful gesture. Shaun honours Vic’s memories… My first post Shaun ever read was the day Vic died. Since then Shaun has truly become a pillar of strength to me. Thank you Shaun and Dawn for your compassionate caring and support! You deserve to receive this award as well…from me!

The rules are simple, because simple is good.

1. Display the award on your blog.

2. Thank the person who sent it to you.

3. Answer a rhetorical question of the authors choosing.

4. Send on the award to everyone you consider a loyal reader.

Rhetorical Question:

If you were on a deserted island, how would you survive? I wouldn’t. I need electricity, warm water, tea and a bed! I would also need litres of insect repellent! I am a creature of comfort!

Loyal readers who read my blog and speak back – in no particular order:


The people I selected make a great effort to read my blog and leave comments. PLEASE, visit all their blogs, they are amazing people, writers and bloggers.