Naked to the world… 3.6.2012

Writing a blog is scary.  I am very aware of the fact that I am baring my soul to the world.  It makes me feel weak and vulnerable.  Naked to the world…

Over the years I have written many unpublished “blogs” – it is a coping mechanism.  After my mom’s passing I wrote her letters.  In these letters I lamented our lot, wrote about my childhood memories, my happiness, fears and frustrations.  When my dad moved in with us I started researching Alzheimer’s and discovered the therapeutic value of a Caregiving Forum.  I started reading blogs of other AD caregivers’ journeys with their loved ones.  I have made many online friends with other caregivers that are in the same situation as we were in.  My dad passed away a year ago and I still subscribe to the blogs and forums.   I feel “connected” to my Dad through this.

So when you read my blog, please know that I am not looking for sympathy.  I am selfishly coping with my pain and fears.  I hope somewhere the blog will of some value to someone who may be in the same situation as we are.  I am not blogging to move anyone to tears – I am blogging through my tears.  You see, when we are around someone who is terminally ill, we cope through a conspiracy of silence.  We talk about mundane things, we smile and even laugh but it is superficial.  We do not share our deepest feelings, our tears and sorrow.

Vic often says she worries how I will cope with her passing.  How ironical is that??  But I know it is because I won’t cry now. Image

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I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child.

4 thoughts on “Naked to the world… 3.6.2012”

  1. Ek ken Ters en Vic deurdat Ters met my. Oorlede neef Tienie getroud was (Vic se pa) ons gesels deesdae met mekaar op FB en SMSe Ek wil vandag vir jul vertel van n moedige jong mamma wat geveg het vir haar kind van die begin af. Toe Vicky se diagnose gemaak is het hul n lewensspan van 10 jaar gegee met Tersia se toegewydheid en goeie versorging en oumas wat bygestaan het Vic baie terugslae oorleef. Wanneer almal moedopgee het Tersia nie opgehou hoop nie. Tersia is seker die moedigste vrou wat ek ken en is die woord MOEDER deur en deur. Ons kan net bid dat sy hierdeur met GOD SE GENADE STAANDE SAL BLY


  2. Ek het die Alzheimer’s stuk baie waardeer, Johann se Pa het ook Alzheimer’s en wat n wrede siekte.


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