“Life aka Vicky” versus “Death” 6.6.2012

“Mommy, I am sick” Every time Vic opens her eyes she utters these words.

Vic is running a slight temperature, her heart rate is up, she is nauseous and her tummy is cramping.  She is deadly pale and looking so old and forlorn. 

We all know people who have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and have lived far past their doctor’s expectations. In our own family Leon, our son-in-law was diagnosed with grade 4 colon cancer.  Today, mercifully and against all expectations, Leon is in remission and living a full and healthy life.

Why is it that some people die quickly, while others are able to linger or even recover?  If it were a simple matter of “willing it” most people would never die.   Yet, so many times I have seen/felt that definitive moment when I KNEW Vic would live.  Maybe it was a twitch or something – I cannot define “it”.  Each and every time when the doctors had given up, the death councillors had been called in; there was that definitive moment when Vic walked away from death.  It was almost as if Vic shook her shoulders and made a U-Turn… I could see it!!!

Vic has defied the laws of “dying” many times.  Liam, one of the ICU doctors at the Donald Gordon says he wants to write a book on Vic’s fight and victory against death

Faith and prayer may provide comfort and strength, but certainly offers no guarantees of recovery.  Many faithful have lost their lives to illness long before they were ready to say goodbye. Wealth, intelligence, good looks, and a charming personality may be great gifts to have, but disease plays no favourites and claims people from all walks of life. The bottom line is that some who are diagnosed as terminal will die, but not everyone will. Some will beat the odds.  So far Vic has.

Will she win what we believe to be the final round?  Life aka Vicky vs. Death… Ten long, long years she has fought with every fibre in her little body.  I sense that she is tired.  Ready to concede defeat…  She says she isn’t scared.  I am!  I am scared of facing life without my baby.  This is the first exam EVER that Vic has not been studying with the boys.  She has always willed them to study.  When she was in hospital she would encourage and push from her hospital bed.  Now she is not even aware of whether they are home or not…

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I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child. https://tersiaburger.wordpress.com

3 thoughts on ““Life aka Vicky” versus “Death” 6.6.2012”

  1. I hope that doctor writes that book,so many of us including me take life for granted, we are ingrateful and moan, yet we have perfectly healthy kids. I’ts opened my eyes to many things I overlooked. Here is a piece out of the movie the secret I seem to fail everyday but Tersia I think you and Vicky perfected the art of showing love.
    I promise myself

    To be so strong that nothing can disturb my peace of mind.
    To talk health, happiness, and prosperity to every person I meet.
    To make all my friends feel that there is something worthwhile in them.
    To look at the sunny side of everything and make my optimism come true.
    To think only of the best, to work only for the best
    And to expect only the best.
    To be just as enthusiastic about the success of others as I am about my own.
    To forget the mistakes of the past and press on to the
    Greater achievements of the future.
    To wear a cheerful expression at all times and give a smile
    To every living creature, I meet.
    To give so much time to improving myself that I
    Have no time to criticize others.
    To be too large for worry, too noble for anger, too strong for fear,
    Too happy to permit the presence of trouble.
    To think well of myself and to proclaim this fact to the world,
    Not in loud words, but in great deeds.
    To live in the faith that the whole world is on my side,
    So long that I am true to the best, that is in me.


    1. Muriel what a special young lady you are. You have the same love for your boys that I have for Vic. I too will try and live to the Secret’s promise. What an amazing world it would be if we did not all fail all of the time!


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