Friday morning the boys woke Vic with breakfast and coffee. They sang “Happy Birthday” and gave her beautiful gold earrings that they had chosen and paid for themselves.
Vic went to breakfast with Leeann at 08:00 and set off for the Beauty Parlour with Esther at 10:00. She was home with beautiful nails at 11:30. Poor little poppet! She was so exhausted. She got into bed and slept for the rest of the day.
We woke her at 18:00 to get ready for dinner. She was in too much pain. She sobbed.
The boys spoke to her and told her “We will have takeaways and have dinner in your room Mom…like we did on Mother’s Day. It will be fun!” Vic had spare ribs and the boys and I had wonderful hamburgers! Danie is so health conscious he had the fish! It was a lovely evening. We were sprawled all over her bed, laughing and joking. I sat there and my heart filled with joy. My beautiful little girl, her sons and my wonderful husband once again celebrating her birthday.
When Danie and I gave her a Tablet Vic was over the moon. She loves gadgets and has wanted a PC Tablet for a long time. Vic said “Mommy I can’t believe I got a Tablet that I don’t have to drink!” We laughed until our tummy’s hurt.
We had arranged a barbeque for Saturday afternoon to celebrate not only Vic’s birthday but also Tom (son-in-law married to Lani) who has a birthday on Tuesday – 4.9.2012, Henk (grandson – birthday 2.9.2012)and Francois (Tom and Lani’s friend – birthday Monday 3.9.2012). We hoped that Vic would have recovered enough to be able to enjoy the afternoon. She rested until 14:00 and got dressed just in time to meet the first guests. We planned to sit under the trees but the weather turned. A cold wind blew and we moved the party to the house.
Children were running around and laughing. Lani had prepared party packs for the kids and they had a ball! The table settings were beautiful. Lani is a magician! Clusters of people were standing around chatting and laughing. For a short while our household would appear to the world as a perfectly happy and normal household.
Vic looked so beautiful. To the untrained eye she looked just like a normal, healthy young woman. That is until she moved…she shuffles like an old lady! She insisted on having photos taken with everyone as they arrived!
By 19:00 Vic was exhausted! She conceded defeat and changed into her pyjamas on and slippers. She came back to the table and tried so hard to hang-in. Poor little poppet! She cried from pain
Vic had a very bad night. “What else can I take for pain Mommy?” became a refrain!
Last night Jared developed kidney pains again. He said it was the same as last weekend’s kidney stone pains but worse. This morning we decided to take him to the casualty department (ER). Vic very bravely got dressed. It was however very clear that she would not be able to go with. She was just in too much pain. She was heartbroken and sobs racked her little body. “I am letting my son down….”
Jared had lots of pain meds and tomorrow morning we will see his urologist.
Our household is back to normal. The laughter has subsided…..
It was a happy birthday………
- Fun was had by all!
Vic's Final Journey 
Vic looks beautiful! God bless her. My heart is so full that you were all able to bond as a family and celebrate life…in the midst of so much pain and agony.
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Uma she has an inner beauty that gives her a radiant glow! We are so grateful that we have learnt to live the moment!
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what a beautiful day for all of you :)
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Thank you! It was a wonderful, wonderful day!
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you seem to have a great patience and understanding of your daughter’s chronic pain. she is so fortunate to have family that makes the best of their time with her. her sons sound amazing! these are the moments that will make all the difference on her bad days.
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Thank you for visiting. I enjoy your blog immensely. Her sons are absolutely amazing – old souls.
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Yes, she looks very lovely.
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