Dying is a lonely journey. Not only for the sick person but also for the family. As hard as we may try to avoid death, the truth is that we do a lousy job of it. Science and medicine will certainly postpone it, even staying healthy might seem to delay it, but the harsh reality is that death does not wait for you, it does not ask you, and it does not listen to you. Death ignores your feelings and wants; you do not matter to death…Death is the only certainty in life! We need to remember that our existence here is fragile, and we never have as much time with people as we think we do. If there is someone or someones out there that you love, don’t neglect that and don’t put off engaging with them because waits for no-one… Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child.
SET YOU FREE – Judy UngerSET YOU FREE You’re hanging on as night turns to dawnI know you can’t stay and soon you’ll be gonewe both know it’s hard to let go; wherever you are my love won’t be faryour smile, your touch, your voice, your face; your essence I will never replacethough I long for you to hold me; I need to set you freeThere is no fear and your leaving is clearwe’ll still have our love it remains with each tear I cry as you leave but I truly believe; as you leave my sight we’ll both be all rightyour smile, your touch, your voice, your face; your essence I will never replacethough I long for you to hold me; I need to set you freethough you have flown to somewhere unknownwe’re never apart ‘cause you’re here in my heartyour smile, your touch, your voice, your face; your essence I will never replacethough I long for you to hold me; I need to set you freethough I long for you to hold me; I need to set you free
Vic is not having a good day. She is so brave, but it is clear to all that she is slowly losing the battle.
The cellulitis in her arm is slowly clearing, the pain and nausea is under control but Vic is weaker. She looks old and drawn – the pain clearly etched on her little face. My heart physically aches when I look at her, and I know that my love will follow her, wherever she may go..
I know I must set Vic free. I need to release her from the hell she lives. I echo Judy’s words “You’re hanging on as night turns to dawn; I know you can’t stay and soon you’ll be gone; we both know it’s hard to let go; wherever you are my love won’t be far”
Thank you Judy for your compassion and sharing your beautiful songs with me.
I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation.
Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend.
I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child.
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Tersia,
Judy Unger has shared your blog with me. May I offer my support to you in this difficult time. I am a hospice volunteer in the United States and work with patients and their families. I am no expert in these matters, I don’t think anyone really is. But I offer you my friendship and and support through this challenging time. I will be reading your posts, keeping you and Vic in my thoughts and praying for an easy transition.
Luna
A beautiful song and gesture. I wish that you’d never have to face letting go, but, wherever and whenever Vic may go, she will still be with you and her pain will finally cease.
Hugs from my family and I.
Dearest Tersia,
When I saw how you shared my song, I was weeping. I never imagined you would do this. Know that I am thinking of you across the world. Of course, you are setting her free. It’s saying goodbye that is so very difficult. Her essence will never leave you – remember that. I am thinking of both of you with much love. I hope I’ll meet you someday.
Thank you tersia for sharing this beautiful gift of love from your friend Judy.
It is an amazing song, the lyrics say it all.
May you be wrapped in the arms of all the friendships you are held dear to. There is nothing that my words will touch.
My thoughts are full of Vic and you. ~ .
Vic's Final Journey 
my thoughts are with you all.
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The best reasoning and defination I have ever heard for death. Lovely voice.
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Thank you!
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Tersia,
Judy Unger has shared your blog with me. May I offer my support to you in this difficult time. I am a hospice volunteer in the United States and work with patients and their families. I am no expert in these matters, I don’t think anyone really is. But I offer you my friendship and and support through this challenging time. I will be reading your posts, keeping you and Vic in my thoughts and praying for an easy transition.
Luna
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Thank you dear Luna. Vic is really battling to let go. Please pray that she will make peace with the situation.
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I think you are right about letting go. Oh this is so hard.
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A beautiful song and gesture. I wish that you’d never have to face letting go, but, wherever and whenever Vic may go, she will still be with you and her pain will finally cease.
Hugs from my family and I.
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Thank you brave Katie.
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I can’t add to any of these comments and am thinking of you.
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Dearest Tersia,
When I saw how you shared my song, I was weeping. I never imagined you would do this. Know that I am thinking of you across the world. Of course, you are setting her free. It’s saying goodbye that is so very difficult. Her essence will never leave you – remember that. I am thinking of both of you with much love. I hope I’ll meet you someday.
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Thank you tersia for sharing this beautiful gift of love from your friend Judy.
It is an amazing song, the lyrics say it all.
May you be wrapped in the arms of all the friendships you are held dear to. There is nothing that my words will touch.
My thoughts are full of Vic and you. ~ .
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