I am in such a bad place. I have been trying to write a post for 4 days. Words elude me.
Very dear friends of ours lost their son and two granddaughters on Thursday. It is a family murder/suicide and my heart is breaking for the family. Our friend, the father of the son who committed suicide (and murder) phoned on Wednesday night to hear how I was coping with Vic’s 6 month anniversary… On Thursday – on Vic’s 6 month anniversary I sympathised with him and his wife on their devastating loss….
I am in shock (as is the entire community) and heartbroken for our friends, his parents and the grandparents of the two beautiful girls. I fear for the mother of the girls. Her life is out of danger, but I cannot imagine her pain or imagine her recovery and healing…
I have been thinking about how different our grief is but I will write later. Now I have to cry.
Reposted from http://reneejulene.com/2013/07/11/the-whimper/ There is a sound that somehow I had forgotten. I don’t know how I forgot it because it is a sound that I am all too familiar with. It is the sound of a broken heart. It is the sound of the leveling of the soul. It is the sound of exhaustion. It is the sound of anguish. It is the noise made after there are no more tears. Losing a child is not loud, forceful and superficial. It is quiet, deep and profound. It is the saddest sound of all. It is the whimper of a mother who has lost a part of her very being, her child.
This is too much tragedy. My heart breaks for all the family members involved and for you friend. A gentle hug is all I can offer as no words will ever be sufficient.
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Thank you Barbara.
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You’re welcome friend. Belinda, grin.
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I am so sorry to hear this. Many hugs to you and praying for this family……..<3
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Thank you.
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Oh Tersia I’m so sorry, there aren’t words for something like this. I just can’t imagine the pain grief and shock of something so tragic. I’m sending love and support to you . xo
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Thank you. We are all devastated and so sad!
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Hugs and support, i wish i could do more xo
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Your support means so much to me!! You have faced so much pain and hardship of your own and yet you still reach out to people like me!! Thank you!
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as you reach out to others xo
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Sending you love, Tersia… lots and lots of love…
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Can’t find anything to write except know that I am holding your hand. So sorry, Tersia. I know well that feeling of discouragement. Life is dark and gray right now. Hang in there.
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Thank you Judy
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Ohhh Tersia, that is awful, kids.. x
My friends Daughter died late last night. How much hurt do we have to see?
I am so sorry to hear this and as always Tersia, if you need to chat, just type, Skype is open ok..
I am here, and you are in my thought.. The mother, my God I can’t imagine.
Tragic..
Hugs
x
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I am so sorry for your loss. The death of a little one is so tragic! Thank you for caring!
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I hope you are keeping ok Tersia..x
My friend has good support. He will be ok..x
Shaun x
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There are no words on this. Only love of such massive amounts that all involved will feel it over the oceans and into their shattered hearts~
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I am sorry for the devastation of such a loss to your friend, your community and yourself. Thank you for sharing my post. Namaste’
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Sending good thoughts and prayers your way. I’m sorry you are going through such a difficult time. I can’t imagine how much pain their family is going through.
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It is absolutely dreadful for them and those that love them.
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OMG – so terrible.
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What a terrible thing for you all. Thinking of you.
xx
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“The saddest sound of all.” There are no words, Tersia; thinking of you, and wishing you some sort of peace…
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Oh my gosh that’s horrible – I cannot imagine the pain.
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You are an astonishing woman. Deep in grief, yet you share of yourself with another family also in grief. God love you my dear and take care of yourself. Sending a prayer your way.
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Thank you dear Shirley.
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Just checking in to say Dawn and I are thinking about you x
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Thank you!! I am going through a rough time! xxx
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I am a Facebook chat away, I know I say this often.
If you need a chat, just drop me a “Hi” x
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You are the best!!!
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Xx I pray you are doing ok xX
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I can’t even imagine what this family must be going through, I’m so sorry for their loss and for what you are experiencing as well. These anniversaries are so painful, and can take us to such depths…sending blessings to you.
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Thank you Lucia.
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I’m so very, very sorry also……We have a hard enough time to go through our own losses. But to hear and know of someone that can take lives, and those of children is just so devastating. It is a completely different mind set than we could wrap around. I know there are no words, but my prayers and thoughts of comfort for you. I send you out reached arms of comfort.
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So much sadness in one family. Tersia, my heart and thoughts go out to you and to the mother. She will need all the love and support she can get.
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so sorry for you loss and pain,Blessings and Peace
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Thank you for popping in and your kind words!
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This is so frightening, and I am deeply sorry. It is absolutely true I nearly killed Daniel and myself when he was infant as I believed it was the only way to protect him from abuse. I almost did it.
Whatever drove him to do it… I don’t know, but it is horrific, and I see it clearly now. I am so sorry.
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Fear and despair are horrible bedmates… I am glad you did not!
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I am so glad you did not!! Grief is a terrible thing.
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Thanks, Tersia. Grief with despair and lack of support even worse!
Yet people do it. It happens. This chills me.
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Your love and compassion for others in the midst of your own devastating grief amazes me. You are such an incredible person. I’m so sorry for all of the pain in every direction, I can’t even begin to imagine that scale of loss, it’s awful.
Hugs to you all.
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Ah Katie – I have just been told by someone that I am so opinionated that it makes it understandable that people dislike me. So thank you. I needed a kind word today.
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