I reblogged this. So often we use words without stopping to think that years later the words will still ring through the ears of the recipient…
When I first got married, and my ex-husband asked me for a divorce, he cited a couple of reasons for the request.
1. I was a great mother, career person, entertainer, friend etc but I was a lousy wife
2. He thought I was ugly
Now I know there was a certain amount of truth in the statement. I knew that I was not focused on his needs quite as much as his mistress was. But, I also knew, in my heart that, although I am not an oil painting, I was reasonably attractive in my own way. Some people have even said I am pretty.
The fact remains – when I look at myself in the mirror I see what he saw. When Danie and I have a disagreement he agrees with his predecessor. Other days he will tell me I am beautiful. Then I agree with his predecessor…
It is true that beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
It is also true that harsh words will never leave one’s head. I still hear his words 34 years later!
Let us remember that words destruct and destroy. Words can never be taken back. Hurt lingers on…. Let’s be gentle!
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