The focus today was Hospice.

The physician came in today and suggested that once Vic is well enough to be discharged we should have her admitted to a Step-Down facility.  A Step-Down facility is an in-between Hospital and Home facility…How wonderful would that be!

Vic refused. 

Well, the meeting with Prof Froehlich went quite well, if she keeps to her commitment!  She will engage in a discussion with the Pain Clinic’s Social Worker and Home Nursing Representative who deals with Hospice.  I also got a letter from the Physician and Orthopod treating Vic at the Union.  I will submit these letters to Hospice and if they refuse to treat Vic I will take them to the Constitutional Court.  So help me God I will not give up!

Jon-Daniel posted on his BBM status that “No child should ever hear their mother cry from pain”.   No child should have to.  I know that Sunday evening’s fall (Hero to Zero) will haunt the boys and me forever! 

Vic is just a bundle of pain today.  Danie sat with her whilst I was at the Pain Clinic.  We insisted that the boys go to Gold Reef City as planned.  Jared needs to get his mind off his operation and Jon-Daniel needs to be with his big brother.  They were traumatized by Vic’s fall.  I hope they have a wonderful day!!

Tonight we planned on taking them to dinner as it would the last good meal that Jared will have in many months!  Maybe I can find someone to sit with Vic. Jared’s surgery is major.  It is to repair an underdeveloped reflux valve, hiatus hernia and creating a junction to tummy due to scar tissue formed from burning.  I have a lot of confidence in the specialist surgeon.  My biggest concern is how I am going to keep Vic in bed…Fortunately they will both be in the same hospital!

I am so tired.   I have slept in a chair at the hospital and have no intention of leaving until Vic can cope without me.  Hospitals are noisy and Vic is in so much pain when she moves!!






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I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child. https://tersiaburger.wordpress.com

4 thoughts on “Hospice”

  1. What can one say, Tersia you are ALL in our prayers and thoughts. God Please bless you. love Mignon and Dave xxxxxxxx HUGSxxxxxxxxx


  2. Hi Tersia, I dont think any human can ever explain the “why” of our human suffering. Although God has never tested me in a similar fasion as Vicky, I have had some ‘raw deals ‘ in my life as well. I (we) even did a bible study on Job, “Why Lord?” I must say I found a great deal of comfort in Job. In many ways we also take on God, be it with crying, praying, words, rage … If we can retain our sanity during such times, we eventually (again) come to the conclusion that God is in control – even of our hurt. When God eventually answers Job and starts questioning him (chapters 38 – 42) about His power and greatness, Job has to submit – God is God
    When Frans was 2nd year Architect student, I had to praise God that I lost my job and in all likelyhood, he will not be able to continue his studies. But I had shed many a tear, had temper flares against God, you name it. I had it – before I reached the stage of priase and glory.
    We as humans can clone a sheep, skin (for 3 year old Pippie), some other organs, by using “modern technology” like adult stem cells and heaven knows what else. Thinking we are very clever and sometimes even thinking we can be God. In the end we come to realise that even with us being so smart, we are merely duplicating what God has already created! That is why He is God.
    Where am I taking this?
    … nothing that we endure (suffer) now, can compare whith what is waiting for us, once we are permanently united with God. I pray for comfort for Vicky, you and the rest

    I once received a sms from a friend:

    I asked the Lord, what shall I pray for those in my life. And the Lord replied: Today, just call out their names – I know

    “Dear Father God, I (once again) call out VICKY !” Amen

    Dries de Klerk


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