Relax, it’s just a bend, not the end!

We are seeing a GP tomorrow morning regarding Vic’s arm.  Both her arm and hand are so swollen that I am concerned that she may actually lose her arm.  It has now been more than a month from the day that she fractured her arm.  When I bathed her tonight I removed part of the dressing that is protecting her arm.  Her arm is still black and blue and horrifically swollen.  I am convinced that she has pressure sores under the cast.

Today was a truly exciting day… (Relax, I am being facetious)

We phoned the Orthopod that treated Vic in hospital.  Sorry, he (Dr Y) can only see Vic next week!  We then phoned her original Orthopod (Dr V) with the permission of Dr Y.  Dr V’s receptionist informs us that Dr V will only see Vic with the written consent of Dr Y.  We tell her that Dr Y is too busy to write a letter but has advised us to get Dr V to phone him (Dr Y) if he needs to speak to him.  “We will not even allow you into Dr’s rooms without a letter.  Doctor V is too busy to phone.  Get a letter if it is so urgent for you to see Doctor!”

Well!!!  What the hell do you do?  You cannot force a receptionist to allow you to see a doctor.  Even if you force your way into the consulting rooms you cannot force a doctor to see you.


The fact that Vicky is terminal does not give any doctor permission to wash their hands off her.  It is written into our Constitution that every citizen of this beautiful country has the right to medical care!!  “In terms of South Africa’s constitution each person is entitled to human dignity, equality and freedom. This should also be the case when a patient receives medical treatment in the private and public sector.

The Government has an obligation to protect the life of every person in South Africa. The patient has the right to receive medical treatment.”

I promise anyone who cares to read this or hear me: if there is permanent damage to Vic’s arm, I will sue both doctors, regardless of her overall medical condition.

Tomorrow we will see Vic’s GP and hopefully she can get Vic into an Orthopod’s rooms!  Why only tomorrow?  She is too fully booked today to see us today…

Today I had a message from Dr Jaffer Hussain asking whether the Jurnista is working.  Not only did he care enough but he asked whether I wanted him to ask Prof Froehlich to motivate Hospice?

I received a message from my brother today that read:- Often when we lose hope and think this is the end, GOD smiles from above and says, “Relax, it’s just a bend, not the end!” 

Is there hope after all?  I am cautiously optimistic!

Tomorrow afternoon we see the Urologist.  Strangely I am at peace about Jared.  God cannot be that cruel so I trust in a positive outcome!

JD (Jared’s Dog), is 15 years old and suffering from 3rd degree congenital heart failure.  In human years JD is at least 105 dog years old. She has been such a healthy little dog but is now starting to battle.  She coughs throughout the night and end up sitting upright to breathe easier.  When I get home she is so excited that she has a coughing spell.

JD follows me where ever I go.  If I step back I step on her.  She sleeps in my room.  JD and I have a system worked out.  When I come out of the shower she is already waiting for me.  When I go downstairs, with her in tow, her little tail is wagging and she is clearly very excited to see what little snack she is going to have.  I know she is not supposed to have little snacks but heaven helps the person who tries to feed me hard, dry biscuits when I am 105 years old!

I do not want JD to suffer any further.  Tomorrow morning she will go to the parlour one final time.  In the afternoon she will have an injection at the vet and gently drift off to Doggie Heaven.  Vic and Jared want to go with her.

I am a coward.  I do not have the resilience and strength to take her.

Vic and JD watching a movie

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I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child.

2 thoughts on “Relax, it’s just a bend, not the end!”

  1. Dit is wreed om iemand wat reeds so swaar kry so te laat wag, This is so bad so cruel how can they do it to her I mean they know her condition


  2. Where are the days the Medcial staff studied medicine to care and show compassion. When we were young everyone cared for one another, and docters did house calls and had a cup of tea while sitting with their patients. Now it is how much can they make per minute, rush home to around of golf. You have a hard day ahead. Vic GP, Jared specilaist, JD trip to paradise. No words can ease or lighten your load, but know that you are not forgotten always in my thoughts. Take Care


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