And the winner is….

I recently blogged about Vic feeling sad because she feels that she has not achieved much in her life. This is however her personal feelings.  Achievements are relative!

The rest of the world sees an incredibly brave young woman who has given birth to two incredible boys and raised them to be monuments of her love. ( Lucinda Elliot commented “But how can she think she has achieved little, when she has been so brave and produced such delightful children?” (  

Today I read a touching post  I will quote some of the post:

“I stopped today to reflect where the river of life has taken me….sadly….no I did not end up fulfilling all my childhood dreams…at least not yet! I am not even close to being what I thought I wanted to be when I grew up and I will probably not end up in a career that I ever thought I would…at least I won’t if I stay on this track. Part of me says that is cool…I started on point A and now as the river of life twists and turns I have seen, grown and changed.”

“I guess that point to my rambling brain tonight is just because you are not where you thought you would be in life….doesn’t mean you have not experienced some pretty amazing things. Life is a river that twists and turns but wow if we see life as something that we can always learn from and change with….what doors will open for us! I cannot wait to see what the rest of this semester brings, what being in a doctoral program for a few years does for my life, or even where I will end up in a few years after I am done! That is a whole new world to me and I cannot wait to experience the twists and turns!

Sadly I know the twists and turns will come at great cost, great painful cost to my body. But I fight with my brain every day and make it work, I make myself get out of bed, and I make myself think even when thinking is so hard.  Why? Because I (and you) have a purpose here, we are supposed to be somebody and do something, and I refuse to be stopped because I feel so downright crappy. Yes some weekends/days I spend all day in bed….but the next day I am up and pushing forward! Life is a marathon race…you just have to keep pushing forward, day after day and you just have to go with the flow! Don’t let your pain stop you…keep doing something for yourself and then for those around you!”

Have I achieved what I set out to do in my life?  No I haven’t.  Whether by my fault or whether it has been the twists and turns the river of life has taken me on.  I have made good and bad decisions in my life, I have been loyal to unworthy people, I have enriched the greedy.  I have been married and divorced.  I have been rich and poor…

My biggest achievement in life is however being the mother of this incredible young woman, Vicky.  Vic is the bravest, most courageous fighter I have ever encountered in my life.  She inspires people.  She has touched the souls of thousands of people.  She has rewritten medical science.  She has defied death.

Against every odds in the world Vic gave birth to two beautiful boys.  She has raised them to be compassionate, respectful, honest, thoughtful young men whose behavior honors her as the wonderful mother she is.

I am a “back-up” mother to Danie’s four beautiful children and Reuben.  I have three wonderful son-in-laws and two amazing daughter-in-laws.  I have ex-children-in-laws that I love.   I have 12 grandchildren!  I have a wonderful sister-in-law who says I am a sister.  I love my siblings and their children.  I love my grandchildren.  I love all my kids and their spouses.  They allow us to be part of their lives and the grandchildren’s lives and love is interwoven into ours.

I have an amazing husband. He is my best friend.  We love one another deeply and are happy.

So I have unfulfilled dreams, I am unable to retire and some days life is difficult!  I never got that Business Woman of the Year Award.  Disappointments and suffering in life is inevitable.  Most days’ life is great and I am blessed with love and a fantastic family.

I have had a successful life!   Achievements are relative.





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I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child.

7 thoughts on “And the winner is….”

  1. Envy you those twelve grandchildren. Your life sounds as if it has been full and eventful. My own (illogical) conviction is that we have a life pattern that is part of a greater pattern, and our individual plans tend to come unstuck because of it. That isn’t a belief I an defend intellectually!


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