Children are so fragile…..


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Christmas 2013

Day 22 has finally arrived.  Day 21 dragged on and on…  I waded through a haze of misery today.  Jared had an horrible day.  I could see he had cried.

Jon-Daniel has a friend sleeping over.  He is a young boy of 14 who lost his dad to a drug overdose a year ago.  I asked whether he had been for counselling.  He said he had but that it had not really helped.

“I had to get over it by myself” this old soul said.

“The shrink kept telling me I must forgive my dad.  I hated my father for using drugs.  So I stopped going.  He wasn’t listening to me so there was no point…”

I have to travel to an exhibition in the UAE from the 16th – 21st of February.  Upon my return the boys and I will go and see the Hospice psychiatrist again. I think we would have worked through enough grief to be able to cope with this part of our journey.

Children are so fragile.  On the surface they appear to be coping yet the pain lies shallow…

Last night Jon-Daniel cried.  Today Jared battled to breathe.

15 thoughts on “Children are so fragile…..

  1. Oh my…my heart goes out to the boys and to you too. Every time I see that you have posted I pray for you…little comfort I know but as a mom myself I can imagine how I would feel. I’m glad that you and Vic’s boys have each other…
    blessings,
    Diana

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  2. My heart goes out to you and the boys Tersia, everyone grieves in their own way and at their own pace, there is no right or wrong way to mourn. Some people hide their grief better than others but it does not make their suffering less. You all need to find your own path through this and I am sure that the hospice counsellor will be able to help you individually and as a family.

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  3. My sense from watching our own and other kids is that they have a mix of strength and fragility, and the challenge we have as those close to them is to be able to interpret and adjust to them as they bounce between the two. Being there, and unconditional love, help give them that space, and it is clear in all your posts how much you care for them.

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  4. We feel what we feel, no matter that anyone tells us this is “better” or “right” we are going to experience the grief in our own way, so just support, validate and listen, and it will take as long as it takes.

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