A tidal wave of emotions,
have sent my soul out to sea.
Crashing currents submersing,
what once was you and me.
Drifting afar distantly,
a glimpse of precious time.
While I held you close to me,
singing your favourite rhyme.
Rocking gently back and forth,
arms encircling you whole.
Lips pressed upon sweet innocence,
your cries I did console.
Praying the Lord may keep you;
wash your troubles away.
Hoping a bond forever remains,
the same tomorrow as today.
Splashing scents of adorable purity;
upon your mother’s face.
I draw you closer, your tiny being;
and even tighter I embrace.
Consumed with pure admiration,
at the woman you’ve became.
your absence chastised me numb.
Although I know you had to,
spread those vast angelic wings.
I still can hear the laughter,
of a child’s heart that proudly sings.
These crashing, violent riptides;
will soon turn a peaceful wave.
Knowing the life I gave you,
is the life in me which you did save.
This current of my heart, is perfectly;
in synch with every beat.
A perfect bond between us;
without your love, I’m incomplete.
In 2005 I planted an Iceberg Rose outside Vic’s bedroom window. It looked pretty and gave her great pleasure.
Roses have always held a lot of meaning for me.
|Red Roses: A red rose is an unmistakable expression of love. Red roses convey deep emotions – be it love, longing or desire. Red Roses can also be used to convey respect, admiration or devotion. A deep red rose can be used to convey heartfelt regret and sorrow. The number of red roses has special romantic meanings associated with them. 12 red roses is the most popular of all which conveys “Be mine” and “I love you”|
|White Roses: White is the color of purity, chastity and innocence. White flowers are generally associated with new beginnings and make an ideal accompaniment to a first-time bride walking down the aisle. White flowers can be used to convey sympathy or humility. They also are indicative of spirituality. Hence, white roses also follow suit.|
|Yellow Roses: Yellow roses are an expression of exuberance. Yellow roses evoke sunny feelings of joy, warmth and welcome. They are symbols of friendship and caring. The yellow rose, like the other roses, does not carry an undertone of romance. It indicates purely platonic emotions.|
|Pink Roses: There are a lot of variations of the pink rose. Over all, pink roses are used to convey gentle emotions such as admiration, joy and gratitude. Light pink rose blooms are indicative of sweetness and innocence. Deep pink rose blooms convey deep gratitude and appreciation. Pink roses also connote elegance and grace.|
|Orange Roses: While a yellow rose reminds us of the sun, an orange rose reminds us of a fiery blaze. These fiery blooms signify passion and energy. Orange roses can be used to express intense desire, pride and fervor. They also convey a sense of fascination. These flowers rival only the red roses as messengers of passion in romance.|
|Lavender Roses: A Lavender rose like its color conveys enchantment. It also expresses “love at first sight”. Darker shades of lavender roses (close to purple) convey a sense of regal majesty and splendor. These roses are used to express fascination and adoration.|
|Blue Roses: A perfectly blue rose is still elusive like the perfectly black rose. Blue roses cannot be achieved naturally so they represent the unattainable or the mysterious. Blue roses therefore embody the desire for the unattainable. They say “I can’t have you but I can’t stop thinking about you”|
|Green roses: Green is the color of harmony, of opulence, of fertility. It is also a color indicative of peace and tranquility. Green roses (these are off-white roses with shades of green) can symbolize best wishes for a prosperous new life or wishes for recovery of good health|
|Black Roses: Black is the color of death and farewell. A black rose, like the blue rose remains elusive. What we know as black roses are actually really dark red roses. Black roses convey the death of a feeling or idea. Sending black roses to someone indicates the death of the relationship.|
|Mixed Roses: By mixing rose blooms of different colors purposefully, you can create a bouquet of emotions. For example, a bouquet of red and white roses would mean I love you intensely and my intentions are honorable. A random mix of roses would convey mixed feelings or send a message: “I don’t know what my feelings are yet but I sure do like you enough to send you roses.”|
The white roses symbolized Vic’s pure heart; the love that filled her precious heart… Vic had no malice in her. She was a people pleaser with an abundance of love. Vic loved passionately. There were no half measures in her life. She loved the way she lived. She loved her family, her boys, her friends. Vic loved life.
At Stepping Stone we started a memorial garden. Symbolic gestures are part of the healing. Planting a rose in memory of a loved one brings a certain amount of solace… I see people come back to check on their roses; they photograph the roses. Is it a way of clinging to something living that represents a loved one? I think it may be the case.
I awaited Mother’s Day with trepidation this year. Yet the morning dawned and I was fine. I spoke at a church on Hospice that morning. Jon-Daniel accompanied me. Poor baby. He sat through an Afrikaans sermon that I am sure he did not always follow. I stood in front of the congregation and wished all the mommies a happy Mother’s Day. I had a smile on my face but my heart wept for Vic’s precious boys who did not have a mom to celebrate the day with. I wept in my heart for me – I was childless. It was not a happy day for us.
In the afternoon we went to a nursery and bought roses for the memorial garden. The boys chose a deep pink and I chose a gentle pink. It represented Vic’s gentle nature, her femininity and “softness”. The boys said their rose reminded them of Vic’s boldness; her passion for life.
We bought Steers Burgers – Vic’s favorite hamburgers and that was indeed her last meal. We picnicked in the Stepping Stone Garden. We planted Vic’s roses and released balloons. Gentle tears ran down our cheeks as we sent up balloons filled with love and longing.
A week ago I noticed an amazing thing. Vic’s white Iceberg roses, planted outside her bedroom window, started turning pink…
My precious little Angel I am so grateful for the reminders that you are with me. I wish I could hold you but I know that you see our pain, our empty hearts and that you are trying to reassure us that you are indeed our guardian angels.
“To God, I hope you look after Auntie Vicky. She is very sick. Love Chloe Alexa Burger” My precious 5 year old UK granddaughter wrote this…her mommy found it in her school satchel last week.
Dear God, hear the words of a five-year old.