Vic is sleeping peacefully


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It is 12:42am and Vic is sleeping peacefully.  She had a “good” day. In between her naps she had lunch with a friend, a visit from Esther and a walk in the garden with Jared!

Vic’s legs are growing very weak.  The cellulitis on her arm has worsened despite the antibiotics.  It is now oozing pus.  Sr Siza will see her tomorrow, and I believe Vic will have to go onto IV antibiotics.  She had a violent vomiting spell just after she took her antibiotic tablets tonight.  It is very difficult for her to keep tablets and food down.  Despite the six-hourly anti-nausea injections she has….  And of course there is the problem of the poor absorption.

“I can’t do this anymore…” Vic mumbled to herself tonight after the vomiting episode.

The situation is getting to Danie.  My poor husband tries so hard to be strong and make life easier for the rest of us.  Jared and Jon-Daniel are deeply conscious of the situation.

“Life will be horrible without Mommy” Jared said today.  “She takes so much of our time, and such a big space in our lives….  Mommy has such a presence Oumie…”

We spoke about his little brother and Jon-Daniel’s inability and aversion to discuss his emotions.

I realised that the boys are already starting to dread the void Vic’s passing will leave.  Anticipatory grief is a killer.  It is unfair that these two beautiful boys have to experience so much pain and hardship in their young lives.  They should be riding their bikes and getting up to mischief.  Now they are stressed out because their mother is dying.

I am too tired to write anything that makes sense.  I just need to record today.  I never want to forget today.

I want to remember how I felt when I lay with my child this afternoon.  I want to remember her tears when she spoke to her sister.  I want to remember the smell of her vomit.  Maybe it will make it easier to accept later on.

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I am a sixty plenty wife, mother, sister, grandmother and friend. I started blogging as a coping mechanism during my beautiful daughter's final journey. Vic was desperately ill for 10 years after a botched back operation. Vic's Journey ended on 18 January 2013 at 10:35. She was the most courageous person in the world and has inspired thousands of people all over the world. Vic's two boys are monuments of her existence. She was an amazing mother, daughter, sister and friend. I will miss you today, tomorrow and forever my Angle Child. https://tersiaburger.wordpress.com

17 thoughts on “Vic is sleeping peacefully”

  1. i’m so sorry you’re all in such pain. have you thougth of suggesting to the boys to journal? a personal journal? sometimes that helps when there aren’t audible words.

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    1. I agree, That is why I blog. I have suggested it to them, but they are teenage boys, and there is no poet or author hiding in either one. They will see the Hospice councillor again next week.

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  2. Sending love and prayers to you and your family, as always. I’m so sorry for all that you’re going through, I can’t even imagine the pain you must be in. I’ve been praying hard for Vic’s miracle and for some comfort and peace for you all.

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  4. You are always close in my mind. You are such a loving mom, bearing the weight of Vic and your grandchildren. I pray that God will stay with you….

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