I thought Sunday to Wednesday was a nightmare but boy oh boy come Wednesday morning and my child became a terror! The “my son really needs me” adrenaline kicked in and Vic was uncontrollable!
She was out of bed, marching into Jared’s ward as if she was the healthiest person in the world! I was at a total loss. My dearest friend Gillian wrote me a message: “What a wonderful mom. Her child comes before her illness. Will
not let go until her kids are okay. You can be very proud of your daughter”… My reply was: “Yeah – too cross with her to give her any credit at this stage”
Vic cannot pace herself. Like on Sunday, she will be like a jack-in-the-box and when the moment is over, crash! In this super human effort to be there for Jared she causes so much stress to everyone around her. Jared stresses because she fusses around him, I stress because she is overdoing things again and I know there is a severe penalty to be paid for that, Jon-Daniel stresses for both them! Danie stresses for me… I get irritated with Danie for trying to protect me…. It is a vicious cycle of nerves!
Jared’s operation went very well. The poor baby was in so much pain but stoically brave! Not a whimper!! I am so proud of this beautiful boy. I was a little concerned for his emotional well being after Sunday. He cried with fear and frustration for his mother.
Vic was up and down the passages last night checking on her son! This morning Jared said “Oumie I am so tired. Mom kept coming in and touching me…” Vic means so well! She wants to be there for her children but often does not understand that she is the sick one. Her actions stress us out. On the other hand, I must admit, that I was more at ease knowing that Vic was in the same hospital as Jared and able to check on him…
It is such a heart wrenching situation. Vic wants to be a mother and I want her to be a child!! When she is okay she can be whatever she wants’ to be. When she is ill I want her to become my baby again… Vic is an amazing mother. She loves her boys with every fiber of her body. She has fought to stay alive for the boys. Who am I or anyone to deprive her of this wonderful privilege? At the end of the day it is her reward for surviving the odds…
On Monday the physician cancelled the bloods he had ordered and agreed that palliative care was the only route to go… I don’t think he thought she would leave the hospital alive… On Wednesday Vic was looking out for her son…What a brave woman my child is.
Vic was discharged from hospital this morning. It is Thursday.
Vicky is super-human!
The focus today was Hospice.
The physician came in today and suggested that once Vic is well enough to be discharged we should have her admitted to a Step-Down facility. A Step-Down facility is an in-between Hospital and Home facility…How wonderful would that be!
Vic refused.
Well, the meeting with Prof Froehlich went quite well, if she keeps to her commitment! She will engage in a discussion with the Pain Clinic’s Social Worker and Home Nursing Representative who deals with Hospice. I also got a letter from the Physician and Orthopod treating Vic at the Union. I will submit these letters to Hospice and if they refuse to treat Vic I will take them to the Constitutional Court. So help me God I will not give up!
Jon-Daniel posted on his BBM status that “No child should ever hear their mother cry from pain”. No child should have to. I know that Sunday evening’s fall (Hero to Zero) will haunt the boys and me forever!
Vic is just a bundle of pain today. Danie sat with her whilst I was at the Pain Clinic. We insisted that the boys go to Gold Reef City as planned. Jared needs to get his mind off his operation and Jon-Daniel needs to be with his big brother. They were traumatized by Vic’s fall. I hope they have a wonderful day!!
Tonight we planned on taking them to dinner as it would the last good meal that Jared will have in many months! Maybe I can find someone to sit with Vic. Jared’s surgery is major. It is to repair an underdeveloped reflux valve, hiatus hernia and creating a junction to tummy due to scar tissue formed from burning. I have a lot of confidence in the specialist surgeon. My biggest concern is how I am going to keep Vic in bed…Fortunately they will both be in the same hospital!
I am so tired. I have slept in a chair at the hospital and have no intention of leaving until Vic can cope without me. Hospitals are noisy and Vic is in so much pain when she moves!!
Sunday was an amazing day. Lorraine, my sister, came to visit and it was great having adult company that discussed more than pain control, bowel movements and vomiting.
Lorraine moved a chair into the sun for Vic. Vic sat basking in the winter sun sipping lots of coffee. In true form, Vic on her occasional good day, pulled the dam from under the duck. She was like a little jack-in-the-box. Needless to say, I was a spoilsport as I kept begging her to slow down…She did at 15:00 when she literally crashed.
Vic sobbed from pain and my poor sister was reduced to tears. She is not used to facing the raw pain of a terminally ill patient who breaks through her pain threshold!
Vic dozed on and off but kept waking from the pain. Maybe she took some additional pain meds because she seemed disoriented? Both Danie and Lorraine expressed their concerns that she seemed to have totally lost track of time and events…
Sunday afternoon the boys came home after spending the weekend with their Dad. Danie took Jared and Kirsten, (Jared’s girlfriend), to church. Vic kept trying to get out of bed. She is so darn stubborn. She hardly ate any dinner so I gave her anti-nausea tablets and only half her normal pain medication. She kept getting out of bed. She would just not stay in bed.
I got so angry with her that I said I would fetch Jared from church. I needed to remove myself from the situation. Lorraine said “let me stay with Vic” and I said “No! Come with me”
Minutes after dropping Kirsten off at home I had a phone call from Danie telling me that Vic had a bad fall…
At home she was lying in a crumpled little heap full of blood and screaming from pain. Jon-Daniel, bless his heart, was lying next to her on the bed trying to comfort her. Vic went hysterical when I said I was phoning an ambulance.
“No Mommy, No!!! No ambulance! No ambulance”
We agreed that we would try to get her to hospital in my car. Jared half carried her out to the car and then the drama began. We could not swing her legs into the car! She was screaming with agony.
I phoned the ambulance service but when they arrived it was obvious that they could not lift her onto the spine board and/or bed. Eventually we repositioned Vic in the car. Jared sat behind her and cradled her in his arms. The ambulance escorted us to the hospital.
At the hospital it took at least 15 minutes before the Trauma and Medics staff decided how to move her into the Trauma Dept. Vic screamed and screamed with pain! From 21.30 to 03:00 they x-rayed and scanned Vic. Most of the x-rays were done in the Trauma section. Vic’s pupils were very dilated and she was VERY confused so they also ran a CT Scan.
If I was ever given the opportunity to erase 30 minutes from my life it would be the 30 minutes that it took to move Vic from the ER bed onto the scanning table and back, straightening her legs and forcing her to lie on her back…she screamed and cried “Mommy help me, Mommy!!! Mommy!! Mommy help me!!!”
The diagnosis – “impacted fracture of proximal metaphysis of right humerus”. Vic was admitted to the orthopedic ward and scheduled for surgery today. The orthopod decided that she is too frail and the risk of the sepsis spreading from the spine and abdomen to the arm, too great, for him to “pin” the arm. So Vic’s arm is in a sling and will mend, albeit crooked, eventually on it’s own. She also has a displaced fracture of the fibula, posterior malleolus, (I believe these are all ankle fractures and Lanie, a physiotherapist says if she had to choose a fracture it would be these fractures), an avusion fracture of the calcaneus and several vertebrae …The spine…well what is to do? Pain control, bed rest… Oh, did I mention that the staff had mobilized Vic and she had WALKED on her broken ankle because no-one read the X-ray reports??? I only picked it up when I read the reports this afternoon!!!! I had to report it to the nursing staff!
I would like to point out that this is in a Private Hospital….can you imagine what happens in Government Hospitals?
I am so angry with myself. This happened because I got angry with Vic. I should have stayed with her and not renaged my Caregiving duty. I should have had been there to bulldoze my stubborn child into remaining in bed. My temper has caused Vic endless, unbearable pain. Who knows how long it will take her to recover from this trauma…if she indeed ever recovers from this! I will never forgive myself for this!
Well with the bad comes the good as well. We have dreaded Jared’s surgery on Wednesday as we know Vic would have insisted on trying to sit at hospital all day. Actually, the whole week! Problem solved. She is too sore to move… And will more than likely still be in hospital on Wednesday.
The nurses just changed her bed linen and she screamed with pain! How are we going to take care of Vic at home? My sister offered to come through but two qualified nursing personnel could not move her without causing major distress. She also cannot walk and needs to be “bed-cared” for. …bed baths etc, etc, etc
For the first time ever I am at a loss. I am so tired. I don’t know what to do anymore.
Today is a glorious, wonderful day!! Vic seems better and even walked down the passage to my TV Lounge and then she made us tea!!
I say “seems” because she is ill. By her own admission today, she is ill but she has decided to “live a bit”. And she is sick and tired of people telling her what to do… She concedes that we all mean it well but……
This child of mine is so stubborn!! She truly does not know the meaning of giving up. The one minute she is contemplating death and the next she is worried about who will inherit the dinner service when I die! In a moment of anger Colin once said “Vic is too spiteful to die” – I don’t think she is a spiteful person but hard-headed – now that is another story. This is one stubborn lady!
A while ago, in the early hours of the morning, I started a PowerPoint Presentation on “What makes her strong” I will share this with you…
What makes her strong?
Her Heritage
Vic, My Dad, My Mom, Jared and I
Vic comes from a long line of stubborn Vikings. Vic’s maternal grandmother was an amazing person. She too was ill most of her life. From her sickbed she “controlled” our family – as Vic now does. My Mom certainly kept the family together. Her immediate family was everything to her! We only truly realized and came to appreciate her strength after her passing.
My Dad was a wonderful caregiver and provider. A man of great wisdom who until the last two weeks of his life fought Alzheimer’s with every fibre of his body, mind and soul. He was a true gentleman who never let on that he did not know who you were. Once, when he was hospitalized, I went to fetch him on his discharge. When he saw me he exclaimed “My goodness, how wonderful to see you! Imagine bumping into you here of all places…” Dad lived with us…
This is Vic’s maternal heritage. ..Brave, strong people who do not know how to give up.
Tienie, Vic’s biological dad, was an amazing person. He lived life to the fullest – every single second of it!! He did not ever want to grow old. He wanted to die young. He died young… He died living! He hated sleeping. Considered it a waste of time. He was generous even in death. He was an organ donor.
Vic and her father on her first day of school!
Tienie and I separated when Vic was very young. He could not accept the fact that the Osteogenesis gene was passed from his bloodline to Vic. Vic’s paternal grandfather died from OI at the age of 35. All the other paternal grandchildren are unaffected. The only affected family member is Vic and now I believe Jared. The curse of Osteogenesis lives on in my beautiful, innocent grandson!
Vic comes from a long line of people who lived. It must be so hard for Vic to be trapped in a body that barely allows her to breath. Imagine a life of pain with absolutely no prospect of recovery…
Vic is the greatest warrior of all!! Living in the shadow of death has truly made Vic embrace life whilst she is still alive. She grabs the good seconds, she does not wait for good minutes… She knows that her fragile health is a ticking timebomb…
Today is a glorious, wonderful day!! Vic seems better and even walked down the passage to my TV Lounge and then she made us tea!!
I say “seems” because she is ill. By her own admission today, she is ill but she has decided to “live a bit”. And she is sick and tired of people telling her what to do… She concedes that we all mean it well but……
This child of mine is so stubborn!! She truly does not know the meaning of giving up. The one minute she is contemplating death and the next she is worried about who will inherit the dinner service when I die! In a moment of anger Colin once said “Vic is too spiteful to die” – I don’t think she is a spiteful person but hard-headed – now that is another story. This is one stubborn lady!
A while ago, in the early hours of the morning, I started a PowerPoint Presentation on “What makes her strong” I will share this with you…
What makes her strong?
Her Heritage
Vic, My Dad, My Mom, Jared and I
Vic comes from a long line of stubborn Vikings. Vic’s maternal grandmother was an amazing person. She too was ill most of her life. From her sickbed she “controlled” our family – as Vic now does. My Mom certainly kept the family together. Her immediate family was everything to her! We only truly realized and came to appreciate her strength after her passing.
My Dad was a wonderful caregiver and provider. A man of great wisdom who until the last two weeks of his life fought Alzheimer’s with every fibre of his body, mind and soul. He was a true gentleman who never let on that he did not know who you were. Once, when he was hospitalized, I went to fetch him on his discharge. When he saw me he exclaimed “My goodness, how wonderful to see you! Imagine bumping into you here of all places…” Dad lived with us…
This is Vic’s maternal heritage. ..Brave, strong people who do not know how to give up.
Tienie, Vic’s biological dad, was an amazing person. He lived life to the fullest – every single second of it!! He did not ever want to grow old. He wanted to die young. He died young… He died living! He hated sleeping. Considered it a waste of time. He was generous even in death. He was an organ donor.
Vic and her father on her first day of school!
Tienie and I separated when Vic was very young. He could not accept the fact that the Osteogenesis gene was passed from his bloodline to Vic. Vic’s paternal grandfather died from OI at the age of 35. All the other paternal grandchildren are unaffected. The only affected family member is Vic and now I believe Jared. The curse of Osteogenesis lives on in my beautiful, innocent grandson!
Vic comes from a long line of people who lived. It must be so hard for Vic to be trapped in a body that barely allows her to breath. Imagine a life of pain with absolutely no prospect of recovery…
Vic is the greatest warrior of all!! Living in the shadow of death has truly made Vic embrace life whilst she is still alive. She grabs the good seconds, she does not wait for good minutes… She knows that her fragile health is a ticking timebomb…
My heart nearly stopped when I walked into Vic’s room this morning. She looked as if she had died. Vic had had a terrible night and actually, a terrible day too.
Today, I again realized that Vic is truly a prisoner of pain and despair. For 36 years she has held onto life, against all odds. Poor precious child. I cannot help but ask the question “Why was Vic dealt such horrible cards in life?” Surely there must of been people more worthy of this tortuous life??? Oh yes, the purification process… Surely we have been through the melting ovens enough – if we have not been purified by now it will never happen! Now whoever brought this upon us – please move along!! It is someone elses’s turn.
Vic once said to me that if she believed in reincarnation she may have understood her life. She would then have believed that she was Pontius Pilate in her her previous life…
If I could change places with my child I would. If by any magic I could take over her pain and misery – even for a couple of hours, I would. I can’t!!!!!
“Where there is life there is hope”. Who came up with that stupid cliche? Vic has hoped and prayed for so long! Everyone has prayed for her. People from all continents and across all religions and denominations have prayed for her to be healed. She has been anointed with oil. And then there are those religious know-it-all’s who claim that the sins of our forefathers have brought this curse upon Vic. What absolute hogwash! How can people, who believe in a God of Mercy, make such a statement?? Either there is a God of Mercy and a Son who died for our sins or there isn’t! You cannot have it both ways!
Walk in our shoes for one day before you make such cold, uncaring, loveless statements. Look at Vic’s beautiful sons and then YOU, oh righteous, pious one, tell them that Vic’s journey is because of a curse cast on her by the God that they trust and love…
We’re all on a journey toward death anyway – how we get there, and what we’re able to do in that time is the important thing. But all journeys have an end. I pray that Vic’s journey will end! 
Today was a mixed day. Although Vic seems marginally more ill and weaker than yesterday she was more upbeat. When the boys got home we all had tea with her and the boys joking brought a smile to her beautiful little face. For approximately fifteen minutes there was easy banter in her room. What a change – our conversations tend to revolve around bowel movements and the color of vomit.
Lying on her bed with me I realized how small our world has become. Vic’s days consist of Eat, Sleep, Vomit or Eat, Sleep, Tablets – one of the two combinations. It is amazing that she has not developed bedsores yet.
The Concise Oxford Dictionary defines euthanasia as being “gentle and easy death; bringing about this, especially in a case of incurable and painful disease”.
I have a simple theory. Most people who are terminally ill and of full mental capacity are able of ending their own lives at one or other stage of the disease. The terminally ill are able to take that extra dosage of morphine themselves. The vast majority of people have an incredible desire to live and will live through pain and suffering and continue to breath! Euthanasia is not the issue… You really want to die, you will find a way to die
In the event of a patient suffering from a disease or illness that incapacitates them i.e. motor neuron disease where the patient is ventilated or the patient was left severely brain damaged from an accident, life sustaining treatment should not be allowed. If doctors are allowed to prolong lives should they not be allowed to end life? I firmly believe that doctors do not know when to give up. Vic’s Dad, Tienie, had severe brain damage after a car accident and yet the ICU team resuscitated him after the brain damage had been confirmed! Why??? What is the purpose of breathing when you are not able to walk, love, talk, breathe on your own?
Professor S A Strauss in his book Doctor and Patient Law, 1984 edition published by J L van Schaik on page 387 states that “in principle every person is legally entitled to refuse medical attention, even if it has the effect of expediting his death. In this sense the individual has a right to die’. All that is required is that the declarant, at the time of making his refusal known, is compus mentus…
In the case of Vic she is on 400mg of morphine twice per day and takes 25ml of morphine syrup every 4 hours for breakthrough pain. Vic has become morphine resistant and the dosages are increasing to keep her incredible, debilitating pain at bay. Surely the dosages of pain medication that she is on must become lethal? I know that it is Vic’s doctor’s primary intention to make her life as comfortable as possible by the administration of pain alleviating medicines. Yet the mercy shown to her may have the side effect of hastening death… Please do not misunderstand me – If I knew how to pray I would pray for her suffering to end!
Vic has a living will with a DNR (Do Not Resuscitate) clause. I will ensure that it is enforced if the “need” ever arises.
Sometimes I am scared Vic will not die – that she will continue to live, no breath, in this hell that we call life. The bottom line is however that Vic will NEVER take an extra dose of morphine and NO ONE will ever administer an extra dosage of morphine. We all fear God’s retribution for murder… both the terminally ill and their caregivers.
As my dear friend Mohammed says:- her life is in the hands of her God. We can speculate as much as we like, we have absolutely NO control over life.
I hate seeing Vic suffer but I so cherish the 15 minutes we had today. Fifteen good minutes in two months…I know I would have taken that extra dose of morphine a long time ago if I was her her shoes.
The world is filled with evil, bad people. Why don’t they suffer the pain and indignity that my sweet, loving child suffers? LIFE IS NOT DARN FAIR!!!!!!!!
28 days medication….
This weekend we were showered with love. A good weekend for us as a family but a lousy one for Vic. Vic is in a lot of pain. Mercifully she sleeps most of the time. The sharp stabbing abdominal pains are getting worse. Strangely her temperature is only slightly elevated but her heart rate and blood pressure is high. Signs of pain… Today was particularly bad, Worse than yesterday…
Esther brought Vic wonderful nutritional rusks – so she can take MEDs first thing in the morning, Lanie a huge pot of sweet corn soup that Vic devoured and Tracy Chinese soup and cake for the family. Gill popped in with Chelsea buns. I was so touched by the caring of our family. I know it is hard for them to see Vic like this. Gill, as she walked down the passage to Vic’s room said, “now my blood pressure is going to be high again…”
Gill lives in Whiteriver, a four-hour drive from me. We have been friends for roughly 34 years – literally and figuratively through thick and thin. As young Mom’s I did blood and plasters and Gill did dentists and invasive tests. When Vic was in hospital, as a little girl, Gill would sit with her and Len would take me for tea and anchovy toast!
In 2007 Vic was desperately ill and I sent Gill a text message at 9.30pm to say “Vic is in trouble. Been put onto life support. Pray for her” The next morning Gill walked into the hospital to be with me. When the doctors told us they were switching the life-support machines off as Vic had no chance of getting better and surviving the septic shock and ARDS, Gill sat with me. Gill came home with me and helped me tell the boys that the doctors said their Mommy was going to die… We took turns in holding the boys that night. The next morning we walked into the chapel and prayed that God would spare Vic one more time… Gill stayed with me the entire day. God spared Vic.
Gill is an amazing person – she works so hard on her friendships. She has a clipped way of speaking and has amazing compassion. She chats to the boys on BBM. She checks in with all of us on a regular basis. I think she is amazing because we are all so focused on Vic that we sometimes forget to ask the boys how they are!
What I want to say is that this is so hard for the people around us too. Many people/friends have come and gone but Gill and Len have stuck around. There are other friends too – not many though. And of course our wonderful family. It is hard for them to not only see Vic suffer but also the rest of the immediate family. I will go to my grave eternally grateful for this wonderful friendship.
Poor Lani arrived this morning with her eyes swollen from crying. Yesterday would have been her sister-in-laws 40th birthday. Anmar tragically died in a car accident in November last year. Of course my blog triggered so much emotion in her. She has decided to take a break from the blog as it is too difficult for her to read. She has such a “soft” heart.
It is amazing how Danie’s kids have accepted Vic and I into their lives. How they talk about their sister. Vic grew up as an only child and was 16 years old when I married this wonderful man. She hated Danie and spoke of him as “that man”. But from the second that we said “I do!” Vic has called him Daddy…Danie has treated her exactly as if she is one of his own! On Saturday morning he took her toast and coffee at 06:30 so she could take her tablets and allowed me to sleep in. During the week Jared makes his mom breakfast so I can sleep. Vic has MEDs at 03:00 and I go to sleep after that. Thank goodness I work from home and can sleep in a bit. The nights seem to be more difficult for Vic than the days.
I am rambling. Thank you Esther, Lani, Gillian and Tracey for your love and support.
Today is really a bad day! Vic is not well at all! She is experiencing severe intestinal pain. I think it is the adhesions that maybe causing the pain.
I have visions of the adhesions strangling her intestines. Adhesions are like ivy – fast growing and aggressive. Her surgeon says that the adhesions have formed a solid concrete wall and the tissue is like soggy tissue. I look at diagrams and photos of adhesions, partial and complete obstructions and I find it difficult to come to terms with the fact that the surgery that saved her yesterday is killing her today.
We have reached a stage in Vic’s journey where she is almost 100% bedbound. She needs help with every facet of her life.
Vic is very aware that her declining health is leading her towards death. She says she is not scared of dying but I know that she has many other fears and emotions. She fears for her boys and us – how we will cope with the inevitable. She worries about the emotional and financial stress of her situation. She grieves the fact that she will not see her sons graduate or marry.
People say “well, at least you can say goodbye…I never got to say goodbye to my loved one…” Today I want to say to those people “Be Grateful”! Do you think it is easy to stand next to the bed of your child seeing her suffer? Fighting back tears of frustration because you are so darn helpless! Watching as every day she loses more of her dignity? Seeing the tears of pain run down her pale cheeks? Think again! Prolonged goodbyes are absolute hell.
Just about the worse part of the situation is the helplessness that I see in the boys’ eyes when they look at their Mom. I see their red-rimmed eyes. I hear them cry in the privacy of their rooms. I can only hold them. I cannot say everything will be okay or that things will be better tomorrow. Because I know it won’t be!
“Mommy, I am sick” Every time Vic opens her eyes she utters these words.
Vic is running a slight temperature, her heart rate is up, she is nauseous and her tummy is cramping. She is deadly pale and looking so old and forlorn.
We all know people who have been diagnosed with a terminal illness and have lived far past their doctor’s expectations. In our own family Leon, our son-in-law was diagnosed with grade 4 colon cancer. Today, mercifully and against all expectations, Leon is in remission and living a full and healthy life.
Why is it that some people die quickly, while others are able to linger or even recover? If it were a simple matter of “willing it” most people would never die. Yet, so many times I have seen/felt that definitive moment when I KNEW Vic would live. Maybe it was a twitch or something – I cannot define “it”. Each and every time when the doctors had given up, the death councillors had been called in; there was that definitive moment when Vic walked away from death. It was almost as if Vic shook her shoulders and made a U-Turn… I could see it!!!
Vic has defied the laws of “dying” many times. Liam, one of the ICU doctors at the Donald Gordon says he wants to write a book on Vic’s fight and victory against death
Faith and prayer may provide comfort and strength, but certainly offers no guarantees of recovery. Many faithful have lost their lives to illness long before they were ready to say goodbye. Wealth, intelligence, good looks, and a charming personality may be great gifts to have, but disease plays no favourites and claims people from all walks of life. The bottom line is that some who are diagnosed as terminal will die, but not everyone will. Some will beat the odds. So far Vic has.
Will she win what we believe to be the final round? Life aka Vicky vs. Death… Ten long, long years she has fought with every fibre in her little body. I sense that she is tired. Ready to concede defeat… She says she isn’t scared. I am! I am scared of facing life without my baby. This is the first exam EVER that Vic has not been studying with the boys. She has always willed them to study. When she was in hospital she would encourage and push from her hospital bed. Now she is not even aware of whether they are home or not…
Today was another bad day. I had to let Prof Froehlich know that there will be no Ketamine Infusion tomorrow. On the one side I am so disappointed because maybe, just maybe, it may have worked. On the other hand I am relieved. Five hours under anaesthetic would be a killer on her spine and intestines. Third last operation Vic developed a skull fracture from lying on an operation table for 4.5 hours. This procedure would have been done without her normal theatre team who understands her Osteogenesis and her frail condition. They understand and know she will fracture on the operating table if not handled with the utmost care.
I really feel we are in an absolute no win situation. Not even the pain control procedures can be done without causing further harm to her little body.
Michael Wolff of the New York Magazine writes “The traditional exits, of a sudden heart attack, of dying in one’s sleep, of unreasonably dropping dead in the street, of even a terminal illness, are now exotic ways of going. The longer you live, the longer it will take to die,” he writes. “Part of the advance in life expectancy is that we have technologically inhibited the ultimate event.”
Now technology has finally deserted Vic.
The boys are starting exams this week. Jared has worked so hard with Rene on his maths this weekend. I hope they will do well. Poor babies have so much to cope with – they cannot still cope with poor marks and the consequences of it.
On the 27th Jared will undergo major surgery. Poor baby has a reflux problem that has caused third degree burns to the oesophagus and he also has a massive hernia. The doctor says there has been “cell changes” so I hope and pray he will be okay.
In this house we seem to go from one heartache to the next.
Tomorrow is another day I suppose.
Vic's Final Journey 